Day 20

Day 20

1. Continue 1st Day Task being Magic Tree - Speak only when spoken too.

2. Continue 2nd Day Not buying anything new into your house - when you already have them at home.

3. Continue 3rd Day Don't Eat when your nose is hungry - Eat when your body is hungry

4. Continue 4th Day Always be on the move not giving the mind to speak anything to you or manipulate you. 

5. Continue 5th Day Creating only positive Thought for people you see and hear.

6. Continue 6th Day Your Heart and Mind is your Airport, take responsibility of what you allow inside.

7. Continue 7th Day Power to Say to yourself "AM DOING IT FOR ME" 

8. Continue 8th Day "Master your EYE" Let your eye be your assistant not hurt you.

9. Continue 9th Day Being Positive Water. 

10. Continue 10th Day Power to Laugh at your own Mistake.

11. Continue 11th Day Give the gift of Hug to all you meet.

12. Continue 12th Day Pause Ask question before you say "Sorry" Say "Thankyou for letting me know I shall make note and be more mindful of my words"

13. Continue 13th Day Wake up before hitting Snooze button

14. Continue 14th Day Power to Silence when in Anger 

15. Continue 15th Day Power to Let go of "My" & "Mine"

16. Continue 16th Day Power to see Lessons in Daily Walk 

17. Continue 17th Day Power to wake up for self. 

18. Continue 18the Day Power to Resolve all issues within a day. 

19. Continue Day 19 Power to Be Original not Copy Paste. 

20. Power to be Courageous for being Dislike and Rejected with Understanding of Why.

We all want to be like, accepted as who we are by our family, friends and stranger. 

We are wiling to do anything to be accepted even follow what they say but still we get rejected.

Rejection or Dislike can be very negative effect on us individually. 

Personal Experience:

When someone say "you are wrong" or "Why can't you accept that you are wrong"

These words in the past would have trigger me in a very bad way that it cause me to think that "Why am I always wrong" when in effect I was being honest: "is my honesty wrong" "do they want me to tell a lie" just so they could be happy. Its a very confusing for me when I interact with people around me. No matter what I say or do I am always wrong so I just stop talking to them and not get involve in what they do, distance myself from them. Not wanting they approval anymore started to learn to accept myself as I am. 

During hard conversation with partner I was able to understand why was I being rejected and dislike slowly the true was coming to the surface within me. When we don't accept our own mistakes, flaws, our personality or habits we go into the automatic mode by projecting this rejection on to others when seeing them being able to accept themselves even with they own flaws so the jealousy within provoke to be mean & unkind to our family. Unable to be honest with ourselves or to our love ones that they needed help of wanting to be accepted as well with they own flaws. Turn out everyone is very sensitive so I make sure never to speak or point out they mistake or flaws only point out how they choose to speak to me what is acceptable and what isn't telling them these words are unkind kindly if possible avoid using them. When I speak up for myself for what I don't like which was name calling that is consider to be bullying so that they have to go within themselves to see what they spoke was really unkind.

Observation have paid off well I know how to interact with people around me, they are all very sensitive when it comes to conversation. I have to tell myself that no one here is able to accept me as who I am and I needed to understand that they will always reject and dislike me cause they are rejecting and disliking themselves I needed to be kind and compassionate towards them even if they way of treatment towards me is not kind or compassion. I tell myself that they are not well just like how doctor diagnose patient when they are sick how we should treat them and handle them at home with empathy and understanding.

It's not easy that is why we need lots of courage to face our family who are rejecting themselves and projecting they rejection on to us unknowingly. They have been rejecting themselves since childhood slowly building up that rejection and covering it with mask which we feel it fake love, they are also giving themselves the fake love to begin with.   

How to handle Rejection and Dislike from Others:

1. Do Morning Meditation daily to charge yourself with unconditional love from Divine/God/Higher self.

2. Remind yourself daily that They rejection is coming from they own rejection of themselves. Remind yourself daily by making the note and put it up on the wall so that you are able to see it daily and read it daily to remind you of your surrounding of people why they treat you that way in this way you are slowly accepting them as they are without sending them back the same rejection they have been giving it to you for so long. This reminding method is similar to when people are discipline with themselves and read Holi book to remember divine words while they go and do they work outside or when interact with people they meet. 

3. Interact with them only when they ask, reply with calm steady and honest way. Pause before you have the urges to share about your weakness to them cause there are high chances that they can use it against you. Learn from your past experience with them and what is they habits so that when you interact with them you know how to navigate without getting into the storm of they rejection towards you. If you really needed to share you need to play out both outcome in your mind ex: (if I share and they agree can I handle it "yes" if I share and they reject can I handle it "no") see your own response if you get both reply as "yes" then go ahead share with them. This is a wise way to protect yourself from they rejection before hand. 

4. When you fear them this is what I did in my mind I call out to divine to come and help me talk to them just like how when you pray before eat or pray in the morning similarly you can call to divine for help in hard conversation with others you will have to trust the soft inner voice it would be like a whisper telling you what to do. Honesty is always the key to face your fear cause fear doesn't like being honest.  

4. Being honest with yourself will pay off really well when you don't want to hangout with them, make sure you are occupied doing something so that when you refuse them you can tell them what you are doing and once you are finish will get back to you, if you still don't want to do anything just wanted to rest be honest still that you wanted to rest don't add more details of why you wanted to rest cause that could make them wanting to have long conversation with you which you might not enjoy later on. Make your talk very less like what ever they topic they ask reply only about that topic, no going into details, no going into how, when, where etc. only reply when they ask you are safe when you don't over share.