Day 14

Day 14

1. Continue 1st Day Task being Magic Tree - Speak only when spoken too.

2. Continue 2nd Day Not buying anything new into your house - when you already have them at home.

3. Continue 3rd Day Don't Eat when your nose is hungry - Eat when your body is hungry

4. Continue 4th Day Always be on the move not giving the mind to speak anything to you or manipulate you. 

5. Continue 5th Day Creating only positive Thought for people you see and hear.

6. Continue 6th Day Your Heart and Mind is your Airport, take responsibility of what you allow inside.

7. Continue 7th Day Power to Say to yourself "AM DOING IT FOR ME" 

8. Continue 8th Day "Master your EYE" Let your eye be your assistant not hurt you.

9. Continue 9th Day Being Positive Water. 

10. Continue 10th Day Power to Laugh at your own Mistake.

11. Continue 11th Day Give the gift of Hug to all you meet.

12. Continue 12th Day Pause Ask question before you say "Sorry" Say "Thankyou for letting me know I shall make note and be more mindful of my words"

13. Continue 13th Day Wake up before hitting Snooze button

14. Power to Silence when in Anger 

Anger is an emotion that can cause hurt, pain and extreme suffering to self and others who receive it. When in Anger step away from love one cause anger is never kind or loving. Go for a walk or excuse yourself by saying "I love our relationship to be strong and positive I want to calm down my anger in private once am done I shall get back to you with positive mindset" Did you know when you address your anger in this way also the mind will give you so much urge for you to attack your love one's and sometime they anger will want to provoke your anger to rise up as well. 

My Experience:

I was too tired for many year having same old fight that never saw the sign of improvement at all so I surrender to divine for guidance. I did 3 step after I listen to they anger words , reply with honest, clarity and short. Those who are in that kind of mood to fight and wouldn't step down from the ring of boxing with words, they will do these 3 way to come at you:

1. Point out your false and mistake with rage - reply with honest, clarity and short. 

2. Provoke by digging up the past as well - reply with honest, clarity and short (If you don't remember some of the past behavior of your say thankyou to them for reminding and say you will make note in your mind to remind you what they are sensitive about and you want this relationship to work in positive manner. 

3. They will blame everything on themselves by tricking you into wanting you to feel guilty for everything - When you are honest with them and yourself you are release from guilt, but if you are not honest with them your mind will haunt you for many days, months and years. 

Have you notice when there is war in other country base on documentary or movie base on true story how anger can turn into monster. Hindu festival have burning ravan heads we all have that ravan within us all ravan qualities when we starve the anger for not speaking it out one of the ravan within us is dead. We were born with all qualities positive and negative in us only we individual can make some changes in ourselves and how to not feed those anger by believe its words. 

It took me long time to remove other people words of anger from my heart to heal my own wounds I look for pinch of love in they action all have different way of showing love and some don't even know how to show the love cause never experience getting unconditional love only experience condition love. Sometime hurtful words said during anger can be really mean and hurtful that only kind and loving words speaking with pure intention can heal it. 

I have receive these words by love one's during they anger time:

1. I wish I love you when you were thin

2. You look ugly in that dress.

3. That hair cut doesn't look good on you.

4. Go out on the street and walk naked 

5. Your body look like grandma 

6. Don't be yourself

Rest was just energy I felt from them when they had negative thoughts about me. I would go in silence and suffer alone those words was my wall to protect myself from them but it torture me like anything and how I was treated by love one's kept coming into sight for me to see then one day the wall spoke something very mean "Nobody love you just kill yourself" and I did cause I was in that deep darkness with no power over my own emotions. My mind was torturing me cause I kept hold on to they words am so glad that I ask divine for help, I felt that I wasn't brave or courageous to be able to kill myself that day but I did felt that new me was born full of determination to work on healing myself with unconditional love from divine within. 

When ever anger inside me speak by being provoke from outside I zip my lips and read spiritual content from brahma kumaris, watch Sister Shivani video of teaching, listen to philosophical teaching, sing to divine song and only listen to music that have uplifting lyrics in them to nurture my wound. Am so grateful to my past self that I was able to cure myself within 2yrs and be in this place where I could share my experience with you all how anger is not normal, anger only have desire to kill, hurt and cause lots of suffering. 

When anyone comes to me with anger I would detach myself to them by saying within "My emotions is not dependent on them to make me happy or sad, I am responsible for my own emotions they are not happy today so they can't speak with kindness or love" when they are in good mood I say these to myself "My emotion is my responsibility today they are in good mood so they words are sweet its just temporary sweet don't take it seriously, if you like those words speak those word to yourself so you the one who is creating that loving emotions" 

Self talk have been my best friend and best tool to heal myself in all situation. So mind your tongue when you are in anger and mind your tongue when someone else is in anger as well. 

Remember to respond Anger with: 

1. Honesty

2. Clarity

3. Make it Short 

(Pray to divine to give you strength of calmness when you reply)

Protect your love one's when in Anger by silence your mouth