Day 12

Day 12

1. Continue 1st Day Task being Magic Tree - Speak only when spoken too.

2. Continue 2nd Day Not buying anything new into your house - when you already have them at home.

3. Continue 3rd Day Don't Eat when your nose is hungry - Eat when your body is hungry

4. Continue 4th Day Always be on the move not giving the mind to speak anything to you or manipulate you. 

5. Continue 5th Day Creating only positive Thought for people you see and hear.

6. Continue 6th Day Your Heart and Mind is your Airport, take responsibility of what you allow inside.

7. Continue 7th Day Power to Say to yourself "AM DOING IT FOR ME" 

8. Continue 8th Day "Master your EYE" Let your eye be your assistant not hurt you.

9. Continue 9th Day Being Positive Water. 

10. Continue 10th Day Power to Laugh at your own Mistake.

11. Continue 11th Day Give the gift of Hug to all you meet.

12. Pause Ask question before you say "Sorry" 

We were taught to Say Sorry to be Nice to people but we were also lowering our self esteem while doing that. Are you quick in saying "I am sorry" or Do you like when someone say "Sorry to you". 

My Experience:

When I say am sorry the person who is upset become calm and happy again, but I was hurting myself without me knowing. Every time I say am sorry to someone else created emotions I felt like I was responsible for they created emotions I started to feel bad all the time. I when into deep darkness of my mind that it told me I was hurting everyone, I was the cause of they pain and then automatically my mind gave a very scary idea to kill myself just so they could be happy without me causing them pain. 

Its not a fun ride I will say. I didn't enjoy fight with others I wanted to run away from fight so when I surrender to divine. Divine guided me to be honest with myself and to the other person. I would ask question to understand what was it I did wrong or what was it that cause them to have that emotions from saying I am sorry turn into asking question to understand them and then I change the way I respond from sorry to I hear you, thankyou for letting me know what cause you pain so I could make note next time I shall avoid using that words that have trigger your emotions. In this way you are taking responsibility of what you have said and also turning the table on to them by saying Thankyou for them expressing they emotions and vulnerability to you and you have chosen to be kind to them at that moment instead of running away or avoid listening to them. 

When we say "I am sorry" — You disempowering yourself slowly and becoming slave to others easily. 

When we say "Thankyou" — You are empowering others as well yourself. 

When we say "I hear you" — You are present and allowing them to express freely without judgment.

Remember:

You are not responsible for other people emotions. When you created your emotion you choose it to be happy or sad or angry or laughing etc.. 

Why is it that when you are happy others is not responsible but the moment you are upset why is it someone else responsible ?

I like question asking a lot it can clear my doubts, before pain step in, before anger arise in me, but sometime it provoke immature people in bad way, They will go into denial and will use old pattern of habit to provoke me back by digging up the past. Cause they have strong rooted habit of being right all the time and everyone is responsible for they emotions rather then taking responsible for they own created emotions. 

How to handle when you interact with Immature people and how will you know who is mature people around you. 

Mature Person: Will listen, try to understand your perspective point of view, will respond if they don't understand, will go silence if they agree with you or could be they understood you and process themselves.

Immature Person: Will have no patience in listening, will want to argue back, will try to dig up the past, will point out flaws in you in all the things they choose to see, will play games with you by blaming themselves just so you feel guilty, will announce to the person that I am not going cause I am upset, just so they could send they negative feeling towards others, will avoid honesty at all cost, will continue in making up stories just so they could avoid confrontation, can be verbally abusive and physically abusive as well. Immature is like child that never was allowed to express they emotions when they were kids so they slowly grow up into big adults but still have child like behavior that can make many children confuse why this adult doesn't behave like wise person. 

When you confront someone who has Immature qualities and know they habit of physical abuse protect yourself stand your ground of not allowing anyone call themselves as your love ones to hurt you physically. As for Verbally you can just respond with honesty and pray to god at the very moment to give you strength in facing them. Honesty will set you free from verbal abuse and heal you as well.

Take help from anyone you can trust if not go to someone who is mature in your neighbor hood to help you when you are about to get physically abuse. Physical abuse is not Love remember that its Hate its using human body as an punching bag to let out steam and you are not punching bag. You are human being with feelings that can experience pain. Love yourself and protect yourself from both Physical and verbal abuse. 

My Experience

In my teens I was physically abuse by adult cause I wouldn't study but something change when I past the exam I was so happy that I told adult to continue to physically hit me just so I could make adult happy in getting good result. Me being naive and only have desire to make others happy made them realize they own mistake, so adult refuse to hit and refuse my request. 

I am grateful for my own naiveness and honesty that it protect me without me knowing as well. Now Honesty has become my armor and sword. 

So Empower Yourself by Asking Question, Listening, Understanding and Empower them by Saying "Thankyou for letting me know I shall make note and be more mindful of my words". Say Sorry only when you intentionally wanted to hurt them when you accept your mistake you are also empowering yourself by being Honest with yourself and releasing yourself from Guilt.