Take Responsibility

Part 10

Take Responsibility - not blame - for your life

The whole idea of taking responsibility is that if you feel like a 'poor victim' of someone else's behavior, or a bad luck, or genetics, or a disease, or the government - then you are stuck, unable to change the situation. If you assume instead that whatever happen, you're creating that reality, then a whole range of options opens up to you. If you created it, you can un-create it, or create something else! Exciting! You can learn and grow from the experience and you don't just have to sit back and accept the situation.

Blaming yourself, on the other hand, is a way of staying stuck. 'Oh, stupid me - look at what I've created!' It is a way of beating yourself up, of criticizing your inner Child and making you feel heavy, resentful and frustrated. It increase inner conflict and make it much more difficult to work out what is going on or what to do about it. 

If you catch yourself getting into self-blaming, then STOP 'you need to be especially kind and gentle with yourself in this situation I've created it feels bad - but I'm going to work on it, and make things better'.

Taking responsibility for your life - whatever happens is always helpful. Taking the blame is a no-no! Joyfully take responsibility for your life.