Heart Growing

Trust Yourself  Parenting (Part 19) The age of gurus is coming to an end, it's no longer appropriate for us to turn to priests, seers and other external guides for advice about what to do, or to put others on pedestals and project our wisdom on to them. It is time to trust our own inner guidance, our deep self. Trust the fleeting inner impression which most of us ignore or dismiss. If we trust our inner wisdom, we know everything we need to know. To activate the inner wisdom is by meditation on empty stomach early morning and to be able to control your inner thoughts best time meditation is at 3am with this we will intuitively know what we need to do next, in any area of our lives. When we trust ourselves, life becomes far more magical.  If we take a leap of faith following our hearts, 'knowing' it is the right step to take the Universe says "Yes, Yes, Yes!" If we are willing to let go and to change, to close one door before the next door opens. We have to live in...

Parenting (Part 18) Listen to the Voice of Love, Not Fear In every situation, we can listen to the voice of love or the voice of fear. The voice of love, the voice of our deep self, connects us with the greater reality of Oneness. It knows that everything 'out there' is an aspect of the self, and that the universe is friendly and loving. It is the 'still small voice within'. It encourages us to grow, to expand, to reach out, to believe in miracles, to follow our Dreams. (The world may be filled with ego-selves, it can also warn us about potential dangers, ensuring we are not in the wrong place at the wrong time.) Don't squash your fears down, since whatever we resist persists. Become aware of your fears without identifying with them - and send love to that fearful part of yourself. When you have fearful thought or slip into a 'thought attack', smile and call light to yourself - and choose loving, positive thoughts instead. Visualize what you're afraid of...

Parenting (Part 17) Cherish Yourself - Just as you are Our Inner child is constantly wounded in childhood. Our parents, teachers and guardians do their best, but they are only human and cannot provide Unconditional Love. Most of us grew up learned & still believing that we only get love and approval if we do as we're told or be good which made us doubt ourselves and try even harder to get love/approval from others.  The Inner child cannot reason for itself - that is the job of the ego-self - so it simply accepts toxic beliefs as if they were literally true and stores them as information. "My eyes are brown, I have beautiful hair and I'm fat." It then goes on to prove such statements are true - sometimes throughout our lives! There is nothing wrong with you - apart perhaps from some false, toxic beliefs about yourself and life, which can be released.  Shame can also be healed by connecting with our inner wisdom. Our higher Self loves us Unconditionally....

Parenting (Part 16) Forgive Yourself If we feel ashamed or guilty, it can block the channel to our higher self - so it is high-priority to clear shame and guilt from our emotional body by making amends, then let it go. If you sit quietly, ask your inner child what it feels guilty about -  you might be amazed at how much emotional baggage you are carrying!  Releasing shame and guilt is a four-stage process: 1. Become aware of what you feel guilty about, and let go of shame or guilt by reassuring your inner child that enjoying yourself, relaxing or being human are not reason to feel bad! 2. Forgive yourself for any harmful or hurtful behaviour. This mean realising that we are always doing the best we can.  3. Make amends, if it is appropriate. Perhaps you need to talk about it with the other person, or apologize, or replace what you broke or forget to return, or what ever. Or if you've lost touch, or the person is dead, or it feels ridiculous to bring it up, you...

Parenting (Part 15) Give and Receive Love Love begins and ends with the Self, that we cannot Love others unless we first love ourselves. Many people believe that they will love themselves once someone else loves them first but unless we are a source of Love, we cannot attract loving relationship.  Self-love gives us the strength to be vulnerable, to drop our defences, to reveal our own truth - knowing that we have nothing to hide, no need to pretend.  As we love and accept ourselves as we are, we become more loving and giving, and genuinely enjoy others company. Other people feel relaxed and 'Safe' with us, and respond by being more open and honest - so we naturally develop good friends and loving relationships. Self-Love mean we give love freely, without expecting anything in return - a spontaneous hug, an unexpected bunch of flowers, a warm smile for a stranger, a loving note in a child's lunch box, an offer for help to a friend in need, a cheque to a charity ...

Part 14 Open your Heart Whenever we speak from our heart rather than our head we speak from unconditional Love and wisdom we open ourselves to miracles. Love transforms everything.  Whatever the problem, in any kind of relationship, opening your heart almost always changes how you approach the situation and that affects how others respond. When you stop taking it personally, and look at it with an open heart, what do you see? What would your heart say in this situation? Opening your heart also allows us to listen - really listen to the other person.  Most of the time, our head are so full of thoughts about what the other person is saying, or how we feel about it, or what we're going to say next, that we're not really listening at all. Opening your heart means that your thoughts are still, and you feel loving, calm and fully present. Now - what is the other person saying?

Part 13 Let go of your Addictions We live in an addictive society - that is, a society which encourage us to look outside the Self for happiness and fulfillment (rather like searching for God in all the wrong places). We as parent also passing this teaching on to our children. Most of us have at least on addictive way of coping with life: perhaps overworking, alcohol, drugs, overeating, dieting, shopping, TV-watching, busyness, smoking, exercise or staring at a computer screen. (stuffing down anger with packet of biscuits or chocolate, which becomes a habitual way of dealing with stress). The first step in overcoming addiction is to be honest with yourself, and admit you have a problem. In the early stages of addiction, most of us deny that anything is wrong: 'I Just love my work', 'I like being skinny', 'I Just enjoy shopping'. We kid ourselves that our favorite addictive behavior is "Healthy" - such as meditating or reading couldn't p...

Part 12 Own Your Shadow We all tuck away aspects of ourselves which we feel are bad, shameful, painful, scary, inappropriate or unacceptable - perhaps our tears, anger, envy, grief, painful memories, or certain desires or longings. Our shadow is rarely as fearful and hideous as we imagine it to be - and it often holds 'nuggets of gold' such as our courage, laughter, creativity and joy, since we often grow up feeling embarrassed about our best and highest qualities. Sooner or later, we need to reclaim these lost parts of our wholeness: our dark and light Shadow. If you look at your strongest or weakest qualities, the opposite probably lies in your shadow - such as the character with a egoist shadow, or the peacemaker with an aggressive Shadow. If you consider what you admire in others, or what irritates you most, you can be sure that those qualities belong to your Shadow Self. Our shadow can even leak out in horribly antisocial ways. Dark side isn't necessarily b...

Part 11 Give your Problems to Soft Time One of my favorite uses of Soft Time is to give it problems to solve! If you have an issue which you have considered, analysed and generally strangled to death - and still you can't come up with a solution - then you need to give it to Soft Time. Just recently I wanted to exercise but my partner wanted me to go hospital for some work which i felt not up for it wanted to go tomorrow instead so i let my soft time solve the problem with my thoughts creating positive out come if I had to go. I got the solution right away called from my hubby saying "all was busy today so will go tomorrow instead".  Often the solution is simple and obvious - but somehow you had never thought of it before. That is the magic of Soft Time. I trust that there is always a solution. The rule is: if you're struggling with an issue, you're in Hard Time - so stop! Your 90% mind has access to far more information than your conscious ego-self, a...

Part 10 Take Responsibility - not blame - for your life The whole idea of taking responsibility is that if you feel like a 'poor victim' of someone else's behavior, or a bad luck, or genetics, or a disease, or the government - then you are stuck, unable to change the situation. If you assume instead that whatever happen, you're creating that reality, then a whole range of options opens up to you. If you created it, you can un-create it, or create something else! Exciting! You can learn and grow from the experience and you don't just have to sit back and accept the situation. Blaming yourself, on the other hand, is a way of staying stuck. 'Oh, stupid me - look at what I've created!' It is a way of beating yourself up, of criticizing your inner Child and making you feel heavy, resentful and frustrated. It increase inner conflict and make it much more difficult to work out what is going on or what to do about it.  If you catch yourself getting i...

Part 9 See the Bigger Picture If you devote your days in cleaning the house dusted, vacuumed, emptied bins, plumped up cushions as soon as someone rose from the chair or chase your toddler anxiously with damp cloth. Needles to say, you are not enjoying your child early years, because you are too busy trying to keep the house clean. if we ask you why it was so important to clean the house all day long, you would have been puzzled: doesn't everyone want a spotless house? But looking back, she wished she had relaxed and spent more time with her child. There are times in everyone's life when you lose perspective on what really matters, when you 'cant see the forest for the trees'. There are 3 main reasons: 1. Sometime it mean that your inner child, your natural self, is hurting and kept yourself busy-busy so you can keep the pain feeling at bay. It's a tiring to run away from yourself and eventually your health and well being pay a price. 2. when you lose yo...

Part 8 Simple step to know Inner Self 1. Believe in your Dream 2. Spend time wisely, knowing what is precious and what matter the most to you keep in mind that our time on Earth is limited and hugely precious. 3. Follow your bliss and your energy. If someone asks you to do something, it make your heart sink, then say No. (If it feels heavy, don’t do it) 4. Allow Mood-ling time means doing nothing in particular, without any goal or purpose. Mood-ling time have ‘slow, big ideas’ Soft Time. Allow time for simply ‘being’. 5. Enjoy the simple pleasure of Life. Grab a pen and paper, and ‘go within’; then ask your higher wisdom: ‘What do I need to do to simplify my life?’ Be open to the possibility of making big changes. 6. Everything Works Out Perfectly ‘if you have just missed your planes’ learn to say ‘Ah Well’, send loving and positive thoughts and know that (whatever happened) it would be OK. Saying ‘Ah Well’ or EWOP doesn’t mean resigning yourself to a bad situation, it is a...