They write the script:
What the child should believe.
Who the child should talk to.
How the child should behave.
Which dreams are acceptable and which are not.
Meanwhile, the child becomes the lead actor in a story they never auditioned for.
When the child follows the script, the performance is praised.
When the child speaks a line that was never written for them, the director calls, "Cut!"
When the child chooses a different path, the scriptwriter rewrites the scene.
When the child refuses the role altogether, they may be labeled rebellious, difficult, or ungrateful.
Yet perhaps the rebellion was never against the parent.
Perhaps it was against a role they never agreed to play.
Some children act out. Some leave the stage emotionally. Some spend years performing for applause. Some forget who they are beneath the costume.
The irony is that children do not need a director. The world will offer enough directors.
What they need is a parent.
A parent who guides without controlling. A parent who listens without scripting. A parent who supports the story unfolding instead of forcing a story already written.
The goal of parenting is not to create the perfect performance.
It is to help a child discover their own voice, write their own script, and become the author of their own life.
🎭 Reflection Questions for Members
❓Were you allowed to discover who you are, or were you mostly taught who you should be?
❓How much of your life today is based on your own choices, and how much is based on scripts written by others?
❓Have you ever been labeled rebellious when you were simply trying to be yourself?
❓What part of yourself did you hide, silence, or abandon to gain approval from others?
❓If no one were directing your life, what role would you choose for yourself?
❓Are you living as the author of your story, or are you still performing in someone else's script?
For parents: When your child chooses a path different from your expectations, do you become a guide or a director?
🌱 Final Reflection
Before calling a child rebellious, perhaps the deeper question is:
Are they rejecting wisdom... or are they rejecting a role they never agreed to play?
And as adults, we might ask ourselves:
How much of my life is truly mine, and how much of it is a performance written by someone else? 🎭✨
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