Retrack and Rethink Part 1

Attention all parents You need to: Retrack, Rethink, New Believe systems, strong will to face challenges and apply unconditional Love.

Before we pursue any aim in life we needed to learn and pratice that line of work. But we neglected to learn or practice our behavior, mindset and face challenges in our parenting skills.

Most of us were raised by parents who themselves grew up with 'shaming' as a method of controlling their children. Even if our parents are kind and loving, we soon get the message of conditional love: that is, you will receive love and approval "as long as you behave as we want you to".

Few parents realise that their children's behaviour is largely provoke by their vibrations. When we are happy, relaxed and positive; our children tent to be happy, relaxed and positive.

When we are disconnected, we tend to disconnect them. Yet instead of taking responsibility for what we evoke from our children, and for our own reaction, we try to control our world from the outside in - by getting "them" to change "their" behaviour. We usually do this by making them feel bad and urging them to "be good".

We pretend to be calm, happy and smile when we are depressed or resentment, thus teaching our children to imitate our behaviour. Such patterns are then transferred to our adult relationship; that is, we try to resolve problem by wanting to control or 'fix' the other person, or by shaming ourselves and feeling guilty - or denying problems, and pretending everything is fine - rather then by changing our energy-consciousness, our vibrations, which are the origin of the problem.

Shame is toxic if you were shamed and tamed during your childhood and grew up believing that your feelings and desires are bad and unacceptable. So you pretend to be happy, withdrawn and suppress your emotions (needs are dismissed) trying to make them proud and get approval from our parent.

This pattern can be past on to our children. By the time you are an adult, you no longer need others approval, but it has become a habit. 

We can put to stop of this pattern, first we need to heal our inner childhood.