Emotion is our Inner child

When you experience any emotion the come to the surface is your inner child crying for attention, but we avoid facing our own child by distracting ourselves or suppress inner child with substance of drugs, alcohol and self abuse instead of giving your inner child attention of love. Our mind is like our child when its started to cry, the mind starts getting irritated, angry or hurt. Withdraw for a minute from activity and heal the child, talk to the mind and change the quality of thoughts. 

Events <--------->  Thoughts <-----------> Emotions

When we were kids we choose to be happy rather then be good, but our god like figure taught us to be good rather then be happy. Getting condition love from our family member made us forget our joy of life; our family (were taught the same pattern of up bringing) suppressing our emotion and feelings with shaming, blaming, not accepting us as we are, controlling us instead of finding out why our inner child is acting out. 

When new born baby cry we don't suppress babies emotion but we find out the core reason of the cry and handle with care, loving, compassionate and kindness. Same way we can pause and check our emotion of the feeling we are getting by checking the source of this emotions. As we become adults we sometime over think things and with those thoughts become our emotion and we tend to blame outside our self of that emotions & feeling we are experiencing.

When we were kids we act out our feeling and emotion freely but we get scolding for acting out our feeling so we believe that our feeling is bad and that it needs to be punished. 

The child within is not in our control. No one taught us what to think or how much to think. Discipline this child with love, not force or harshness.