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When Love Lets Go: A Soft Goodbye to What No Longer Matches

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When Love Lets Go: A Soft Goodbye to What No Longer Matches There was a time I needed to belong so deeply, I shaped myself to fit the outlines of others. I clung to friendships tightly, fearing the silence between mismatched hearts. But growth teaches you how to listen—not just to others, but to yourself. Recently, a friend told me, “ We don’t have anything in common .” In the past, those words might’ve broken something inside me. But today, they didn’t hurt—they clarified. I didn’t take it personally. I saw it for what it was: honesty, not cruelty. Boundaries, not abandonment. I didn’t plead or prove my worth. I simply let them go—with peace, not resentment. Because I’ve come to honor truth more than attachment, and alignment more than validation. That moment showed me how far I’ve come. From people-pleasing to presence. From clinging to clarity. From fear to freedom. Letting go can be a soft kind of love—the kind that doesn’t need to hold someone close to care. And maybe,...
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Listening with Love vs. Listening as Duty

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 Listening with Love vs. Listening as Duty Listening should be an act of connection, not just an obligation. True listening involves understanding boundaries, knowing when to engage, and ensuring conversations foster respect rather than control. It’s about more than hearing words—it’s about creating trust and honoring emotions. 🚧🚦 The Red Light & Green Light of Listening 🚦🚧 Red Light (Respecting Boundaries & Avoiding Harm) 🔴 Personal Requests & Sensitivity – When someone expresses a request, whether verbal or nonverbal, it’s a red light if they show discomfort or resistance. Honoring their boundaries means avoiding words or behaviors that trigger emotional distress. Example : If someone asks not to be spoken to in a critical tone, continuously ignoring this request can lead to emotional exhaustion instead of connection. 🔴 Parent-Child Boundaries – Children often struggle when their feelings are dismissed. If a child expresses distress about a parent’s behavior, ...
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Self-Reflection: The Path to Understanding Others

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Often, when we notice behaviors in others that frustrate us, it's not just about them—it’s a reflection of something deeper within ourselves. Instead of immediately judging or pointing out their flaws, taking a step back to ask, Why does this trigger me? What do I wish they would change? Do I exhibit this same behavior? can lead to powerful insights. Through this process, we may realize that the very habits we dislike in others are ones we also struggle with. And if we have them, why should we be upset with someone else for the same thing? The truth is, trying to change others often leads nowhere—but working on ourselves does. When we focus on improving our own behaviors, we gain first-hand experience of how difficult growth can be. This, in turn, fosters patience and understanding when we see others still stuck in cycles of blame and hurt. Rather than engaging in frustration, we shift our perspective. We see their struggle for what it is—something we once battled ourselves. And wi...
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Darkside of Venting and Keeping you Stuck in the Same place of loop, inability to move forward.

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🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊 6 Reasons to stop Venting and start regulation, reflection, and forward movement 1. Venting Reinforce negative neural pathways, neural plasticity means that the more you talk about a problem in a negative way, the more you strengthen the brain circuits associated with that problem, and over time, you're hard-wiring yourself into a habit of helplessness. 2. Repeated Venting increases emotional reactivity, expressing anger or frustration repeatedly without resolution amplifies emotional intensity without ever releasing it. This keeps your nervous system on high alert, which means you're stressed out all the time, and it's because you're venting all the time.  3. Venting can damage relationships frequent venting is correlated with decreased relational satisfaction, it put emotional strain on the listener and they'll feel drained burdened or helpless especially when they can't fix anything give the people around you a break. 4. Venting i...
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Evolving Myself

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Being a wife is not a job Being a girlfriend is not a job Being a mother is not a job Being myself is not a job It's really isn't.  I just gotta be myself. Keep evolving myself. Was I contradicting myself? Do you contradict yourself?
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knowing they're alive

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Sometimes people leave even when they're alive. And you can't be with people who are dead.  Both situations leave an empty space, but they're totally different. Even if you end up never seeing someone again,  Simply knowing they're alive somewhere is enough.
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knowing they're alive

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Sometimes people leave even when they're alive. And you can't be with people who are dead.  Both situations leave an empty space, but they're totally different. Even if you end up never seeing someone again,  Simply knowing they're alive somewhere is enough.
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